How to quickly transform tense confrontation into connection and love

Stop Fearing Confrontation And Connect With Love- Stop Fighting Now. 

If your core value is connection, then confrontation is something you probably hate and wish could be quickly transformed into connection and love.  This is possible.  The first step to quickly transform tense confrontation into connection and love is to :

Stop.  Don’t say anything!

That’s right, just stop and listen.  If you are committed to connection, then the first step is to focus on what they are saying to you, regardless whether it is true or not. 

Often when someone is verbally blaming, judging or criticizing you, your brain  automatically goes into defense mode.  But unless you are in physical danger, that does not serve you.  Your defense instinct to fight, flight or freeze, doesn’t resolve conflict nor encourage connection and love.  So you have over-ride this instinct and instead, listen.

Whatever they are telling you, it is only a story – their story.  And even though it’s real and true to them, you don’t have to take it personally or as the truth.  It’s simply their story and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

Even when your blood is rising and you KNOW they have it all wrong – and you are chomping at the bit to correct them, resist the temptation, pretend you are completely mute.  Shut up!  Just listen and stay still.  Yes I know, it’s easier said than done.  So here are some ideas to help you keep a lid on it and listen attentively.

4 Ideas to help you “Stop and shut up!”

1.  Stand or sit straight. Turn toward the person speaking to you and place your feet comfortably on the floor, soles down and shoulder-width apart.  Sit or stand straight and relax your shoulders.  If your skin is crawling from their outburst, imagine an invisible shield between you and them that effectively reflects their energy back at them.

Since you cannot control what they are saying, or how they are saying it, you can have control over your response.  Emotional intelligence is at it’s highest when you are able to stay calm and listen.  So becoming physically centered and balanced helps your body to stay calm and and not react.  Just keep remembering this is their story, not necessarily the truth.

2.  Look directly into their eyes with curiousity. Look gently but firmly into their eyes to connect with them.  Look with curiousity rather than aggression or judgement.  This expands your own mind and awareness beyond their words or the situation.  What colour are their eyes?  How white are the whites?  Are there any specks?  How about the shape and the eyelashes?

3.  Breath deeply. Breath into your belly and relax your shoulders and neck as you continue to listen.

4.  Repeat what you heard them say and ask if you got it right. If they pause, just repeat back what they said.  If they said, “You were totally rude and have no right to talk like that to me!”  Then respond with, “So what I hear you say is that I was totally rude and had no right to talk to you that way.  Did I get that right?  Is there more?”

 

By mirroring their words back to them they will feel heard and less defensive.

Stopping and listening creates a foundation that you can build upon.  At the end, when they have shared everything on their mind, there are several things you can say that will help to restore your connection and love.

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Are You A Robo Calling Voter?

Bad taste is not immoral.  Lying is.

 

From the news in the last few weeks, it is evident that robo-calling is now a common tactic used by many political parties.  But the smell of misuse just gets worse as we start digging for more information about recent robo calling complaints.

It seems we are dealing with degrees of bad taste.  The Conservatives are being accused of poisoning the soup, whereas the Liberals appear guilty of forgetting a few ingredients (Del Monro) or just making the soup too sour (Valeriote).

 

Whoever is responsible (that’s you Pierre Poutine) for the robo calling that misdirected thousands of non-Conservative voters to wrong locations has crossed the line from bad taste to actual food poisoning.

 

The Conservatives can bluster and accuse the Liberals, but it is the Conservatives who may have crossed the line from distasteful to intolerable behaviour.

 

Is it possible that the robo calling lies made on behalf of the Conservatives were not authorized by the Conservatives?  It is possible.  Is it likely?  Unless they have a saboteur in their own ranks, it is highly unlikely.

The core values of honesty and responsibility have been betrayed by both the Liberals and Conservatives.  But the robo calling that mislead voters to the wrong poll stations shows a lust for power and disdain for democracy that is unCanadian. 

Robo calling that goes as far as physically misdirecting voters taints our entire social democracy.

 

If nothing else the Occupy movement is about getting off your butt and standing up with others to say, “This is NOT okay, enough is enough.  I demand better.”  Getting on your feet and joining the hundreds is a convincing, peaceful way to show the 1% they will not get away with corruption, oppression and manipulation.

 

If we don’t show them, what kind of democracy are our grand kids going to inherit?

 

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Stories of Gandhi

Stories of Gandhi

I found these little stories of Gandhi.  They made me remember when I was growing up and had to do tasks which seemed very harsh and unnecessary to me at the time.  Years later, when left alone to do a job, I had visceral memories of the lessons I learned either through my own mistakes or through stories like these below.

Inspiring Stories From Gandhi’s Life

- Uma Shankar Joshi
(For all ages)

I

The night was very dark and Mohan was frightened. He had always been afraid of ghosts. Whenever he was alone in the dark, he was afraid that a ghost lurking in some dark corner would suddenly spring on him. And tonight it was so dark that one could barely see one’s own hand. Mohan had to go from one room to another.

As he stepped out of the room, his feet seemed to turn to lead and his heart began to beat like a drum. Rambha, their old maidservant was standing by the door.

“What’s the matter, son?” she asked with a laugh.
“I am frightened, Dai,” Mohan answered.
” Frightened, child! Frightened of what?”
“See how dark it is! I’m afraid of ghosts!” Mohan whispered in a terrified voice.

Rambha patted his head affectionately and said, “Whoever heard of anyone being afraid of dark! Listen to me: Think of Rama and no ghost will dare come near you. No one will touch a hair of your head. Rama will protect you.”

Rambha’s words gave Mohan courage. Repeating the name of Rama, he left the room. And from that day, Mohan was never lonely or afraid. He believed that as long as Rama was with him, he was safe from the danger.

This faith gave Gandhiji strength throughout his life, and even when he died the name of Rama was on his lips.

II

Mohan was very shy. As soon as the school bell rang, he collected his books and hurried home. Other boys chatted and stopped on the way; some to play, others to eat, but Mohan always went straight home. He was afraid that the boys might stop him and make fun of him.

One day, the Inspector of Schools, Mr. Giles, came to Mohan’s school. He read out five English words to the class and asked the boys to write them down. Mohan wrote four words correctly, but he could not spell the fifth word ‘Kettle’. Seeing Mohan’s hesitation, the teacher made a sign behind the Inspector’s back that he should copy the word from his neighbour’s slate. But Mohan ignored his signs. The other boys wrote all the five words correctly; Mohan wrote only four. After the Inspector left, the teacher scolded him. “I told you to copy from your neighbour,” he said angrily. “Couldn’t you even do that correctly?”Every one laughed.

As he went home that evening, Mohan was not unhappy. He knew he had done the right thing. What made him sad was that his teacher should have asked him to cheat.

III

In South Africa Gandhiji set up an ashram at Phoenix, where he started a school for children. Gandhiji had his own ideas about how children should be taught. He disliked the examination system. In his school he wanted to teach the boys true knowledge—knowledge that would improve both their minds and their hearts.

Gandhiji had his own way of judging students. All the students in the class were asked the same question. But often Gandhiji praised the boy with low marks and scolded the one who had high marks.

This puzzled the children. When questioned on this unusual practice, Gandhiji one day explained, “I am not trying to show that Shyam is cleverer than Ram. So I don’t give marks on that basis. I want to see how far each boy has progressed, how much he has learnt. If a clever student competes with a stupid one and begins to think no end of himself, he is likely to grow dull. Sure of his own cleverness, he’ll stop working. The boy who does his best and works hard will always do well and so I praise him.”

Gandhiji kept a close watch on the boys who did well. Were they still working hard? What would they learn if their high marks filled them with conceit? Gandhiji continually stressed this to his students. If a boy who was not very clever worked hard and did well, Gandhiji was full of praise for him.

IV

This incident occurred when Gandhiji was practising law in the city of Johannesburg in South Africa. His office was three miles from his house.

One day a colleague of his, Mr. Polak, asked Gandhi’s thirteen-year old son, Manilal to fetch a book from the office. But Manilal completely forgot till Mr. Polak reminded him that evening. Gandhiji heard about it and sent for Manilal. He said, “Son, I know the night is dark and the way is long and lonely. You will have to walk nearly six miles but you gave your word to Mr. Polak. You promised to fetch his book. Go and fetch it now.”

Ba and the family were upset when they heard of Gandhi’s decision. The punishment seemed far too severe. Manilal was only a child, the night was dark and the way lonely. He had only forgotten a book after all. It could be brought the next day. This was what they all felt, but no one had the courage to say anything. They knew that once Gandhiji’s mind was made up, nobody could change it.

At last Kalyan Bhai plucked up courage. “I’ll fetch the book,” he offered. Gandhiji was gentle but firm, “But the promise was made by Manilal.”"Very well, Manilal will go but let me go with him,” Kalyan Bhai pleaded. Gandhiji agreed to this and Manilal set off with Kalyan Bhai to fetch the book.

The kind and gentle Gandhiji could be firm as a rock at times. He saw that Manilal kept his word and did as he had promised.

V

Soon after Gandhi’s return from South Africa, a meeting of the Congress was held in Bombay. Kaka Saheb Kalelkar went there to help.

One day Kaka Saheb found Gandhiji anxiously searching around his desk.
“What’s the matter? What are you looking for?” Kaka Saheb asked.
“I’ve lost my pencil,” Gandhiji answered. “It was only so big.”
Kaka Saheb was upset to see Gandhiji wasting time and worrying about a little pencil. He took out his pencil and offered it to him.
“No, no, I want my own little pencil,” Gandhiji insisted like a stubborn child.
“Well, use it for the time being,” said Kaka Saheb. “I’ll find your pencil later. Don’t waste time looking for it now.”
“You don’t understand. That little pencil is very precious to me,” Gandhiji insisted.
“Natesan’s little son gave it to me in Madras. He gave it with so much love and affection. I cannot bear to lose it.”
Kaka Saheb didn’t argue any more. He joined Gandhiji in the search.

At last they found it – a tiny piece, barely two inches long. But Gandhiji was delighted to get it back. To him it was no ordinary pencil. It was the token of a child’s love and to Gandhiji a child’s love was very precious.

VI

Children loved visiting Gandhi. A little boy who was there one day, was greatly distressed to see the way Gandhiji was dressed. Such a great man yet he doesn’t even wear a shirt, he wondered.
“Why don’t you wear a kurta, Gandhi?” the little boy couldn’t help asking finally.
“Where’s the money, son?” Gandhi asked gently. “I am very poor. I can’t afford a kurta.”
The boy’s heart was filled with pity.
“My mother sews well”, he said. “She makes all my clothes. I’ll ask her to sew a Kurta for you.”
“How many Kurtas can your mother make?” Gandhiji asked.
“How many do you need?” asked the boy. “One, two, three…. she’ll make as many as you want.”
Gandhi thought for a moment. Then he said, “But I am not alone, son. It wouldn’t be right for me to be the only one to wear a kurta.”
“How many Kurtas do you need?” the boy persisted. “I’ll ask my mother to make as many as you want. Just tell me how many you need.”
“I have a very large family, son. I have forty crore brothers and sisters,” Gandhiji explained.
“Till every one of them has a kurta, how can I wear one? Tell me, can your mother make kurtas for all of them?

At this question the boy became very thoughtful. Forty crore brothers and sisters! Gandhiji was right.

Till every one of them had a kurta to wear how could he wear one himself? After all the whole nation was Gandhi’s family, and he was the head of that family. He was their friend, their companion. What use would one kurta be to him?

VII

One day Gandhi and Vallabhbhai Patel were talking in the Yeravda jail when Gandhi remarked, “At times even a dead snake can be of use.” And he related the following story to illustrate his point:

Once a snake entered the house of an old woman. The old woman was frightened and cried out for help. Hearing her, the neighbours rushed up and killed the snake. Then they returned to their homes. Instead of throwing the dead snake far away, the old woman flung it onto her roof.

Sometime later a kite flying overhead spotted the dead snake. In its beak the kite had a pearl necklace which it had picked up from somewhere. It dropped the necklace and flew away with the dead snake.

When the old woman saw a bright, shining object on her roof she pulled it down with a pole. Finding that it was a pearl necklace she danced with joy!

When Gandhi finished his story, Vallabhbhai Patel said he too had a story to tell:

One day a bania found a snake in his house. He couldn’t find anyone to kill it for him and hadn’t the courage to kill it himself. Besides, he hated killing any living creature. So he covered the snake with a pot and left it there.

As luck would have it, that night some thieves broke into the bania’s house. They entered the kitchen and saw the overturned pot. “Ah,” they thought, “the bania has hidden something valuable here.” As they lifted the pot, the snake struck. Having come with the object of stealing, they barely left with their lives.

VIII

Gandhi went from city to city, village to village collecting funds for the Charkha Sangh. During one of his tours he addressed a meeting in Orissa.

After his speech a poor old woman got up. She was bent with age, her hair was grey and her clothes were in tatters. The volunteers tried to stop her, but she fought her way to the place where Gandhi was sitting.
“I must see him,” she insisted and going up to Gandhi touched his feet.
Then from the folds of her sari she brought out a copper coin and placed it at his feet.
Gandhi picked up the copper coin and put it away carefully.
The Charkha Sangh funds were under the charge of Jamnalal Bajaj. He asked Gandhi for the coin but Gandhi refused.
“I keep cheque worth thousands of rupees for the Charkha Sangh,” Jamnalal Bajaj said laughingly “yet you won’t trust me with a copper coin.”
“This copper coin is worth much more than those thousands,” Gandhi said.
“If a man has several lakhs and he gives away a thousand or two, it doesn’t mean much. But this coin was perhaps all that the poor woman possessed. She gave me all she had. That was very generous of her. What a great sacrifice she made. That is why I value this copper coin more than a crore of rupees.”

IX

This incident occurred in Noakhali. After the Hindu-Muslim riots Gandhi toured the area on foot to reassure and comfort the people. He would set off from a village soon after dawn and arrive at the next village after sunset.

On arrival he would first attend to his work then he would take a bath. Gandhi used a rough stone to clean his feet. Miraben had given this stone to him many years ago and Gandhi had kept it carefully ever since. He took it with him everywhere.

One evening after they had arrived at a village and Manu was getting Gandhi’s bath ready, she noticed that the stone was missing. She looked everywhere but could not find it. She told Gandhi that the stone was lost and added, “It must have been left behind at the weaver’s where we stayed yesterday. What should I do now?”
Gandhi thought for a moment.
Then he said, “Go and fetch the stone. If you suffer once, you’ll not forget another time.”
“Can I take someone with me?” Manu asked. “Why?” questioned Gandhi. Manu was silent.
She did not want to admit that she was frightened to go alone.

The road to the village lay through forests of betel nut and coconut and it was easy to lose one’s way. Besides, Manu was barely sixteen years old and she had never gone anywhere alone. But she could not think of an answer. So Manu took the path they had taken earlier in the day.

Carefully following the old footprints she managed to reach the village and find the weaver’s house. The old woman who lived there recognised her and welcomed her warmly. Tired and rather irritated Manu told her why she had come.

But how was the old woman to have known that that bit of stone was so valuable? She had thrown it away with the rubbish. They both began to search for it. At last much to Manu’s joy they found it.

Manu had left the house at 7.30 in the morning. By the time she returned it was past one in the afternoon. She had walked nearly fifteen miles.
Worn out, hungry and irritated she went straight to Gandhi and put the stone in the lap.
Then she burst into tears.
“This stone was a real test for you,” Gandhi told her gently. “Do you know that this stone has been with me for the last twenty-five years. It has gone with me everywhere, from jails to mansions. I can easily get another stone like it, but I wanted you to learn that it is bad to be careless.”
“I’ve never prayed as hard as I did today,” said Manu.
“I want to make women brave and fearless”, Gandhi said. “Today not only you but I too learnt a lesson.”
Manu did not say anything but she must have thought Gandhi’s methods were very unusual.

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Occupy Vancouver cozies up with Madame Justice

On October 15th 2011 I headed down to the Vancouver Art Gallery like a moth to a flame.  About 2,000 other people were likewise drawn, sharing an intense feeling that the time is now to stand up for core values like unity and justice.  No longer lone voices here and there, we are part of a global movement, a conscious evolution.  We are not asking, “What are core values?” we are living them.

"Sorry for the inconvenience, we are trying to change the world." and "Don't spray me bro!"

In the Awakening the Dreamer, Changing the Dream symposium, I read a quote by biologist, Elisabet Sahtouris explaining about imaginal cells in the caterpiller.  These foreign cells are  perceived as threats and attacked by the caterpillar’s immune system.  Despite the onslaught, the imaginal cells begin to find each other and find strength in numbers.  The original caterpillar cells begin to break down and the imaginal cells succeed in taking control.  Turns out these imaginal cells are butterfly cells.

I was born for this occupation and finally, we are finding each other and standing up for peace, justice and unity in the world.  I feel like an imaginal cell in the body of human kind.  I am not “…a human being having a spiritual experience, I am a spiritual being having a human experience.”  That is the distinction between the “old” human cells and  new “spiritual” cells.

Yesterday, November 21, 2011, Occupy Vancouver moved out of the Vancouver Art Gallery north lawn as ordered by the Supreme Court of BC.  We packed up most of the infrastructure of domes and tents and had no idea where our new location would be.  We’d assigned that detail to a small adhoc committee two nights before who were keeping it very mum.

Around 1:30 we stepped onto Georgia Street carrying the Information Tent and two dome frames high above our heads as if to say, “Madame Justice, you can move us, but you cannot REmove us.”  I was prepared and resigned to marching the rest of the day to our new mystery location.

Well, it turned out to be a very short march.  Only six blocks.  And we were headed right back to the Vancouver Art Gallery when suddenly we veered left.. to the  Provincial Courthouse?!  Really?  What cheek!

And so it was.  We tucked in all around the back of the north courthouse and held General Assembly there around 7:30pm.  Spirits were high and all were amused by the irony of our new location.

Unfortunately, that good energy was trounced and scattered as two Elders dramatically accused one of our peace keepers of violence and betrayal.  The entire GA proceeded on the edge of chaos as the Elders demanded to speak and others refused to let them speak (because it was “out of process.”)  The poor facilitator finally walked away in total frustration at the unruliness of the Assembly.

The gentleman in question was coincidently later arrested by police and was apparently under warrant for past offences.

It’s true that we have attracted an odd assembly of people.  From idealistic, energized 20 somethings, to uneducated, cast-out street kids, to aboriginal elders to average 9-to-5′rs who moonlight tirelessly.

We have professionals, skilled labour, college students and artists.  And we have street homeless.  We are a colony of imaginal cells and it turns out some present are not imaginal cells at all.  But it will all be fine in the end.  As my yoga teacher once quoted, “If it’s not fine, it’s not the end!”

Here’s to creating the virtuous world we all wish to live in and more importantly, we wish our great, great grandchildren to inherit.

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Core Values Occupy Wall St.

Core Values Occupy Wall St.

Something started this weekend in New York City that will prove unforgettable.  The “Occupy Wall Street” movement is just the beginning of a massive, nation-wide movement of average people saying, “I’m mad!  And I’m not going to take it anymore!!” [1]

Each individual has their own story about why they are occupying Wall St., but what I hear over and over again is the sweet sound of core values.  Like the peace movement in the sixties, love and peace are on people’s minds and in their hearts.  They are committed to non-violence as doggedly as they are committed to change.

Some of the values I have witnessed are caring, forgiveness, connection, fairness, integrity, justice, leadership and more.  You can tune into the occupation live at http://www.livestream.com/globalrevolution.

One fellow on the live feed on Saturday talked about being arrested that day.  He was tackled, hand-cuffed and thrown into a paddy wagon with 16 other arrested people.  It was stifling hot with no fresh air and they were left in there for more than an hour.

While in there, uncomfortable, sweating and smelling rank, he focused on emanating love and peace to the police officers who had arrested him.  He said the solidarity of everyone in the paddy wagon joining together to emanate love was uplifting and inspiring.  He came out of there empowered and moved!  The power of standing in one’s core values is the stuff of heroes.

So far the people who Occupy Wall St. may have many viewpoints, but the over-riding message has been for non-violence, compassion and humanity.  I say yes to that.  I say yes to social justice, sustainability and a world in which people know and live by their core values.

And sometimes, saying yes starts with saying no.

Notes:

[1] this quote is from the movie, Network

 

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How to improve mood with the five senses

How to improve mood with the five senses

As human beings, some of us can be quite moody.  Or maybe we know someone who is moody.  Moods are like static, they interfere with clear perception and the expression of your core values.

Moods affect your attitude, productivity and relationships. Negative moods can be anything from grumpy to tired to groggy to bossy to needy.  Your mood is essentially your state of mind or feeling.

Learning how to improve mood is empowering and freeing.  Using research from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy [1] we know that thoughts, feelings and actions are  powerfully connected to each other.  Therefore if you are able to change just one, you can effectively change the other two.

Whatever mood you are in, changing it starts with recognizing you’re in a mood.  If you don’t recognize your state, then you can’t make a conscious choice to change it. I have always been interested about how to improve mood.  And the two most common moods I like to improve are grumpiness and grogginess.  Grumpiness tends to be occasional for me whereas grogginess visits me almost daily.

I’ve learned how to improve mood easily by resetting myself.  You can reset your physical state very simply and your thoughts and emotions will follow.  Exercise is an obvious example of an extensive physical reset.  No one is grumpy after exercising!

“Tony Robbins is famous for dumping a cup of water on a woman…”

But when you are at your desk or in the middle of a conversation, there are other things you can do to reset your mood quickly.  Tony Robbins is famous for dumping a cup of water on a woman in the middle of a conversation.  He did it to interrupt her negative thought patterns.  While she felt upset about the gesture, she did completely forget about what was bugging her. You can learn less extreme methods, thankfully, of how to improve mood.  In fact, you can be quite creative.

The key is to utilize one or all of your five senses, taste, smell, touch, sight and hearing.  These five sensations impact your physical state directly.  Here are some examples.

“Taste, smell, touch, sight and hearing are keys to breaking bad moods”

Taste: Chocolate and cinnamon are powerful tastes that are effective on both men and women.  Theoretically, sucking a lemon might work as well.  By the way, if you are a chocolate fiend, my favourite is Xocai chocolate, which is 100% healthy.  It is cold-processed and so retains extremely high anti-oxidants from the cocao bean.

Smell: Step outside and take a breath of fresh air.  Bury your nose in a fresh rose or smell a bay laurel leaf.  Given this is my primary sense, I actually put a little box of essential oils by my desk.  Today I have smelled spearmint and grapefruit.  The grapefruit cleared my mind and I was able to focus again.

Touch: Try standing up and stretching or gently bouncing a few times.  Or go for a short walk.  For me, this is my weakest method.  I just hate getting out of my chair and moving my body!  But once I do, I feel so energized.  In fact, doing this about every 12 minutes  is said to heighten concentration.

Sight: Roll your eyes up and down and all around a few times.  Close them for 30 seconds or not (if you are feeling groggy!) One of my favourites is to pick something up nearby and look at it as if I had never seen anything like it ever before.  It’s quite remarkable to see something with new eyes.

I also look at paintings I haven’t seen before.  Going to an art museum is the best way to do this, but since that’s not quick, if I’m at my desk I find online art museums.  I recently discovered abcgallery.com and in three clicks was viewing a painting by one of my favourite artists, Piet Mondrian.  AWESOME!

Hearing: Play a new song.  Step outside and listen to the wind or bird song.  Get the lyrics of one of your favourite songs and sing or whistle out loud (by yourself or with others, as you like.)  Or play with marbles or a stack of pens just to make a new sound. If I’m working at my desk, I usually put my head phones on and tune into a local radio station to hear the latest hit.  As far as I know, most radio stations provide a live feed online that you can tune into for free.  I love this especially because they display the name of the song and artist, something I seldom catch when I’m just listening to the radio.

 

If stimulating one sense leaves you feeling the same, then try one or two of the others.  Each of us has a dominant sense.  Sight is a dominant sense for most people, but your dominant sense might be something else.  If helpful, do something to stimulate all five senses.  If you aren’t feeling different after, I’ll eat my hat! You don’t have to let moods interfere with your highest expression of self.

Note [1] Development and Validation of the Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy Skills Questionnaire Jacob KL, Christopher MS, Neuhaus EC.

 

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Core values and complaining

Core values and complaining

I began a 7-day challenge yesterday to stop complaining for 7 days.  I thought it was going to be easy.  Then, just a few hours into it… Continue reading

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On the values and virtues of heroes

On the values and virtues of heroes

Values

If you ask the Oxford Dictionary what’s the difference between values and virtues, it says that your values “are what you give value to in life.” Values can be assigned at many levels: individual, family, company, church, nation, etc. Most individuals are taught and adopt their values growing up.

Virtues

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Shambhala – 1200 year old prophecy casts light on 2012

The Shambhala Story – 1200 year old prophecy and 2012

1200 years ago a prophecy arose in Tibetan Buddhism.  Shambhala Warriors were described as spiritual warriors in a time in the future when Continue reading

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The four heavenly abodes and consciousness evolution

The four heavenly abodes and consciousness evolution

Buddha taught many centuries ago how to bring peace to ourselves and the world.  The truth is, Buddha was not very popular with many of his contemporaries.  He threatened their spiritual authority and so they often tried to “trip him up” with tricky questions of doctrine.

One day they were sure of success.  And this is what happened as told to me by a great Buddhist teacher, Joanna Macy.

“They asked, “Great Teacher, how do you recommend we assist a soul to heaven?”  They were referring to rites performed after someone’s death.  They expected an unconventional answer which would clearly violate doctrine and provide them an excuse to discredit and mock him.

Buddha

 

The four heavenly abodes

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